Inside my heart heart I'm almost sure I suffer from ADHD ..
Why You think? Even before I could finish the above sentence, I switched tabs to search up the disease and get full clarity but got stuck at faking news.. some joke about FB addiction laughed switched to FB stalked a few people (my favorite pass time :D) and then suddenly remembered I had a blog to start!! And now back to the original search I had to make .. Be back in a bit!! (Don't hold your breath about it though!! I wont be responsible in case you die breathless blue :P )
I'm Back :) And found out that ADHD is not just for kids.. Ha! And while I was at it.. figured out an awesome way to learn Bengali as well.. which would pretty soon be replaced by another Alok Nath joke in my mind, they're so funny!!
Oh ya!! These posts have to have something about marriage or the process na? So this one is primarily going to wrap up the entire prelude because frankly 5 really really long essays is way too much footage even for me!!
In retrospect meeting the parents was not as scary as it's made in the movies, definitely no bloodshed that I witnessed!! And he didn't have to prove his worth by earning Dus Hajar rupye all by manual labour either :P (That would have been fun to watch though!!) Once we all got to know each other it was pretty much a smooth ride.
Except for one minor glitch.. my Mom's late realization that she must match our horoscopes.. major horror that created! That was the only time my dad and I agreed on something, that we needed damage control and quick! It's not that I don't believe in destiny or I'm an atheist.. It's just that I don't believe that anybody can predict it with 100% accuracy.. I'm an analyst building risk models day-in and day-out with far more credible information than the date, time and place of birth and I can still only be partially sure if someone's going bust. How can the pandit ji know for sure? His models were built hundreds of years ago and they haven't even been refreshed since.. Hard to beat?? The Logic.. Isn't it?? ;)
Anyway my Mum didn't buy it... she had almost spilled it across to the In-Laws, but it was curtailed in time. How? Second Opinion ;) So the first astrologist had said some pretty nasty stuff and said it would cost big bucks to do away the "Dosh". I was like.. Yeah! Really? From the word go that guy didn't appeal to me one bit! Same as with doctors the guy who writes the most tests is the one you should trust the least (Isn't this an educational blog? I give you such worldly wise advice :D). So we found like three or four more, they all were like it's alright who cares about these things anyways these days ( At this point I would neither confirm nor deny any interference by the vested party :) ) It was only then when the catastrophe was averted! And breathed free!
That really was one happening week! But that was only my mom having her bride's mom's stress moments.. Aah.. now here's an idea! Me being totally useless at being the stressed bride, my mom has got the stress aspect totally covered, she should write something for all the mothers having a daughter like me.. doing no work passing on the responsibilities and then claiming to not feel like a bride!! I'm such a mean person for pulling this on her am I not?
With the "horror"scope settled, we now needed an opportune date for the marriage, that required a lot of clearing calendars, ours, theirs and God's :)... so a lot of back and forth! All this happened more or less in the background.. mostly over the phone. Language may be called the barrier here.. yes my in-laws know both Hindi and English, but not as a first language, they are most comfortable in Bong. So even though they can talk sense in hindi, the essence is lost on us. And we are pretty hindi people :D .. translating emotions to English is equally tricky for my parents.. It does become a problem when you are trying to gauge their preference towards something or asking involved questions. So my parents decided we needed to do this face to face.
And that's when the Calcutta trip happened! Amazing fun that was :) Almost felt like a celebrity :P.
Hmm.. now to think of it.. I think it will not be fair to wrap it up in this one post. Setting foot in my sasural deserves a separate post :)
Till I find a better title..
Live with this :)
Anyway my Mum didn't buy it... she had almost spilled it across to the In-Laws, but it was curtailed in time. How? Second Opinion ;) So the first astrologist had said some pretty nasty stuff and said it would cost big bucks to do away the "Dosh". I was like.. Yeah! Really? From the word go that guy didn't appeal to me one bit! Same as with doctors the guy who writes the most tests is the one you should trust the least (Isn't this an educational blog? I give you such worldly wise advice :D). So we found like three or four more, they all were like it's alright who cares about these things anyways these days ( At this point I would neither confirm nor deny any interference by the vested party :) ) It was only then when the catastrophe was averted! And breathed free!
That really was one happening week! But that was only my mom having her bride's mom's stress moments.. Aah.. now here's an idea! Me being totally useless at being the stressed bride, my mom has got the stress aspect totally covered, she should write something for all the mothers having a daughter like me.. doing no work passing on the responsibilities and then claiming to not feel like a bride!! I'm such a mean person for pulling this on her am I not?
With the "horror"scope settled, we now needed an opportune date for the marriage, that required a lot of clearing calendars, ours, theirs and God's :)... so a lot of back and forth! All this happened more or less in the background.. mostly over the phone. Language may be called the barrier here.. yes my in-laws know both Hindi and English, but not as a first language, they are most comfortable in Bong. So even though they can talk sense in hindi, the essence is lost on us. And we are pretty hindi people :D .. translating emotions to English is equally tricky for my parents.. It does become a problem when you are trying to gauge their preference towards something or asking involved questions. So my parents decided we needed to do this face to face.
And that's when the Calcutta trip happened! Amazing fun that was :) Almost felt like a celebrity :P.
Hmm.. now to think of it.. I think it will not be fair to wrap it up in this one post. Setting foot in my sasural deserves a separate post :)
Till I find a better title..
Live with this :)
lol... ;) my mom also realised after roka nd consulting 2-3 pandits before,that she needs the original copy of boy's janampatri...... nd then to their horror..... his 'horror-scope' had his birth time as 8:24 am... however we matched kundli with 8:20 am.. nd then at 11 in the night.. speculations nd discussions started.. she was ready to break roka ;) nd listening to that i had made plans to run nd marry him... how exciting!!!!!!! finally some action in arranged married.... yay!!! but wen i was in my dreams running.... panditji was called up in d middle of d night nd it was that 4 min doesn't matter.... :P
ReplyDeleteHa!!! Moms I tell u :) They're the same everywhere :P
DeleteThat's the spirit of life! How well have you put on humour to my nightmares :D
ReplyDeleteThey are what you make them :) nightmares or fairy tales.. either way is a good story to tell :)
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