Hits and Mrs. :)

So now that I've been married for a week and almost settled into my new life (not quite, but started still). I thought it's a good time to pick up the updates again. So while my husband is happily playing DoTA (Don't beleive me? Well.. I can't prove it.. but I'm not lying) it seemed to be a good time to type away. I wont say I was short of matter to write today that I'm refrencing one of my old posts, but this was the initial list of fears, I must address them shouldn't I?

So remember sometime back in February when I had shared the things that were bugging me regarding this whole wedding business, today seems to be a good time to look at them in retrospect.


1. What if I fall while on my way to the stage?

I almost did!! Well not on the way to the stage, but while getting off it :) ... Yeah lucky save it was. But you see my fear was not baseless.

2. What if he doesn't want to share his closet space with me? Where do I keep my clothes?

Again my fears were validated, he didn't. But lucky for me there are two closets in this house. So while there is one room which he has very shamelessly occupied as his own (where I am sitting right now while he plays DoTa) I was lucky to get the spare closet in "OUR" room.

3. What if he doesn't want to share his house with me? Would he drop me home everyday even after we're married 'cz he doesn't like the "additional people" in the house?

This I agree was stupid :) He's alright with sharing the house. I'm guessing it's probably because he's getting cooked food.

4. Can I not ever wear my current clothes ever again? Will I only have to wear new clothes? What happens to all the ones I've collected till now? Oh God!! This can't be happening.. Wait a minute this should have scare point number one!

Well, this one holds true for now :( I left my old clothes at my parents' house and haven't been there since last Monday so yes this fear is slowly and steadily turning out to be true. Jitters.....

5. Everybody else looking prettier than me at my wedding

Ha!! Fat Chance!!! I looked awesome at my wedding!! And yes modesty is not my best virtue.. but honesty is :D

6. Wearing a sari to office (Oh no wait.. I am actually looking forward to it.. strike that :P )

I wish I could say I did wear one to office (Yup I started office yesterday.. Lame you say? What do you know I'd say :P) but there was one minor(major) problem, the new house does not have a mirror. Yes! This is what happens if you move into a boy's house. It is completely woman unfriendly. I've been getting ready partly looking at the shaving mirror in the washroom and partly at the office. So even though I tried my best to tie one without a mirror, I failed and hence I haven't yet worn a saree to office.

7. Not being able to eat the golgappas being served at my own wedding

I couldn't :( and breaks my heart into a million little pieces. I couldn't eat golgappas at my own wedding! Oh no.. now I want to eat golgappas now.. how on earth am I going to find golgappas at 1o clock at night!

8. Having to run the house all on my own

This one could be called premature as I've only been doing it in reality for two days; but I'm liking it :)

9. Being responsible of a household

Power corrupts :P I like being my own  boss :D

10. Being the go-to person for everything in the house ( Reminds me of the time (5 minutes ago) when solution to every problem is shouting mommie at the top of my voice)

Not many people have sought my advice in the new house yet, given that this is more like a Robinson Crusoe  and Friday kind of situation, this fear can be subsided for a bit

11. Not getting mom-cooked food daily :(

This would have hurt, but then turns out I can also cook like my Mom.. Yay!! But that doesn't by any means imply I don't miss her food. It's hard work, I knew when I didn't do it on my own, appreciated her then and now I appreciate her even more

Is it just me? Or you think I'm more scared of having to work more than anything else??

12.Living with a boy..

As I've already mentioned, this house doesn't have a mirror. Till yesterday night didn't have a nail cutter either. Everything one could need in the kitchen was on the counter (Yes everything). I think you got the gist :)

13. Not understanding Bengali.. worst not knowing when I'm being made fun of!! My in-laws are nice people they wont do that.. but I wont know any way, will I?

I must learn bengali, I absolutley must! It's not fun being talked about in third person when you are actually sitting right there in the centre of the group. You think I'm exaggerating? Well.. I'm not!

14. Being referred to as aunty by random kids.. wait a minute that happens anyways.. So I guess it's OK :P

Aunty hasn't happened yet.. but yes bhabhiji has happened, and I didn't now who was the shop keeper referring to until I realized I was the only female in the vicinity. Needless to say, I'm almost a matrmonial advert. model right now with all the possible marriage stamps on me, both North Indian and Bong. And what does Mr. Sen have? His old T shirt and shorts! Gender Bias I tell you!

15. Being asked very uncomfortable questions.. where in adults make jokes at the newly weds expense :|

It's too soon for this I guess, or maybe they were cracked in Bong I dont know... (Must learn Bengali quick!!)

16. Having to kill the pests in my new house on my own, but my dad does it, so that means he'll have to do it.. OK so this is covered then :D

I did squash a few ants today if that counts ;)

17. Acting all grown up and wise

Isn't that tough :D Nobody has caught my bluff yet :D

18. Having to play DoTa...

I will not succumb, I began this post by explaining the current house situation, while he plays Dota I'll whatever I please and he can't stop me

19. ... and liking it :/

Nope! Not happening yet!

20. Living without my mommie :(

I miss me mommie.. I do.... what to do:(

Panicking yet? Oh God! Why Not?

OK let me be brutally honest here.. it is eating me crazy, my nonchalance regarding marriage. I would be lying if I say I didn't have a few moments. Here are a few examples the most recent one just ended 5 seconds ago, when I realized not many of the groom's side is turning up for the wedding (I've already vowed revenge! :P )  It's my wedding and it's a big deal to ME! Well Kind of.. Moment two was when I was packing my clothes to be taken to the new house, and my brother said "Acha finally jaa raha hai (Yes.. he talks to me as an inanimate object) OK bye then.." Of course he was mocking me but it struck a note somewhere and then began the water works. He's mean, my Brother! And then there were only these two. Yup! That's about it.

So I asked my mom, as she's the only one I trusted to give me an impartial answer to my question. WHY AM I NOT PANICKING YET?!?!?? She said, "You are afraid when you are getting into something unknown. Where you are not sure of how and what to do. When you are not sure of the dynamics of the new environment you are entering into. You've known Sid for four years now, how long can a person fake who he is? Not four years, that's for sure! You've met his parents, they are such nice people. You chose the house you are going to live in yourself so no surprises there. So where is the scope to fear?"

It makes sense you know, this whole argument my mom gave. Panic would have struck if I feared something not in sync with my plan. I'm not saying it will always be as I want it, but then I'm a person of limited retention capacity, I would have forgotten what my plan was when crisis would present itself let alone crib and shout about it being out of sync. So given that I generally don't make plans, or let's put it honestly, given that I generally don't remember my plans much; the scope of panic striking restricts itself to the very moment the event happens (I'm still thinking it would happen then!).

So while people have been asking me if I feel different; Panic, nervous, scared.. You know the usual, none of them seem to ring true right now because the word I'm looking for is ANTICIPATION. Yes.. That's the word! Remember when I started the blog I said the one thing I was the most excited about was being able to buy all these clothes. Then a few days ago I didn't want to shop anymore because I had to wait so long to use the purchases. Well.. in about a day from now I can wear all my new clothes!! So yes! I am looking forward to the weekend. Also did I tell you, my post marriage abode is only 5 minutes away from my office? Now I save 4 hours of travel time! How cool is that? I know! Very!!

I'm now all out of words and thoughts to share. Don't know what my marital status would be when I get back to the blog again. But I'm sure nothing else about me would change!!

Let the charades begin!!

And the countdown begins

I'm sorry I couldn't upload the weekly update last week.. No No No! I wasn't doing wedding stuff, I was out on an office offsite: White water rafting trip in Rishikesh!!!! I'm back safe thank you for asking ;)
Just a tiny bit tanned.. but all my limbs are with me :D And while I was away my dear boy shifted to our new house where we would be staying after marriage! Yeah! Don't suspect me of being a shirker.. it was all coincidental. No Really!

So I'm getting married in about 8 days from now. I think I should panic just about now.. but somehow.. that ain't happening. The feeling is just not sinking in, that next Sunday I'll no longer be single and free :P I would have been married and domesticated like a house cat (Ha ha! Funny even though I'm saying it for myself!)

I've also been suggested (repeatedly) to get something done to my face to look pretty for the day. Let me be very honest here, I tried but then got shit bored in the first sitting and decided to let the rest pass as the mental agony of sitting it through was way too much to handle. But it is also important to tell you why I got prompted to give it a shot to begin with: So before this month I had an absolutely clear skin. I had absolutely no pimples or any marks of any sorts on my face. But that mind you was not this month, come April somehow my body decided it had been easy on me for too long. All of a sudden breakouts! Face, neck everywhere! For a while I was hoping it would subside as naturally and unexpectedly as they showed up. But when that didn't happen I decided to take professional help. I did go to the salon with a solemn resolve that I would sit it through. But as mentioned above it took too much time and I don't have the patience. But then the pimples need to be taken care of, right? Of course! So I'll tell you how I decided to deal with them.

Step 1: Look at yourself in the mirror.
Step 2: Point to the pimples
Step 3: Say it out loud, You wont win this you pimples!
Step 4: Angry Face and stare
Step 5: Now it's just a matter of wits, wait and watch the pimples wither away with fear!

Easy breezy.. Isn't it? It works! This or may be the magical made at home potion that I smeared on my face a few times now. Given that this blog is a random nonsense blog and nothing I write here must make any sense I'm in a fix as to share or not to share the recipe for that perfectly smooth skin..Well what the hell! My blog, I decide what goes where. So here goes:

1. If you have rough and patchy skin, which recently recovered from acne like I did; tomato juice mixed with honey should be your choice of magic. Believe me when I say this you would be surprised to see how smooth it becomes post this little trick.

2. Blemishes are a little tricky to handle, but this is the fix my Mom uses; Lemon juice and honey. This works too, but extremely slowly. You have to be really patient for this to show results.

3. Smoothing out those summer acne; My tried and tested application fullers earth, sandalwood powder, mixed with rose water and some lemon juice. This not only clears up the skin but also refreshes you completely

4. For that completely white skin; This one is a bit drastic and I only use it when I have to look good at a very short notice. Just plain lemon juice, that's it! You wonder how can that be? Try pouring some lemon juice on your kitchen counter and see how the stone changes color. If it can do that to a rock, imagine what it can do to your face. But please be careful with this one, this could go both ways, once i had a raw pimple on my face when I slathered my face with lemon juice. The pimple burnt like crazy and the mark didn't clear. The lesson I got that day, this quick fix is for days when my face is pimple free. On other days I'll stick to the diluted version with honey it!

So I've chucked the salon and gone organic. But what interests me the most right now is the fact that I'm imparting beauty tips at 1 in the night 8 days away from my wedding day, tanned from a river rafting trip I went on when my fiance was working hard at shifting into a house that I would be comfortable in. Am I crazy or what?