Sunday, 9 March 2014

Of Mamma's boys' and Daddy's girls'


This realization took me some time, but it is slowly and steadily dawning upon me that I've chosen an almost carbon copy of my dad. It's uncanny how two people from very different cultures and upbringing be so damn similar! And how did I manage to find him of all the people I've met in my life!

Now in what sense are they similar one may ask, let's make a list shall we? (I have this thing for lists J )

1.     They've got similar food habits, none of them consider a meal to be worth it unless at least one bird has been killed and served on the table

2.     It’s easy to keep them happy, good food (satisfying the above condition) to eat and they’ll give you no reason to complain

3.     They both do not care much for clothes and/or colour coordination

4.     Both won’t know subtle hints until one writes on sheet of paper, wraps it on a rock and hits them with it

5.     They find it difficult to be around people, in their different ways but they’re both pretty anti-social

6.     I’m the centre of their world (OK maybe the last one isn’t all true.. but it’s true in parts J )  

And this doesn't end here, he also states that I'm so like his Mom (I could add a list here too, but I wont  J and that his mom has scolded him for the most part of his life and the remainder I shall take over. 

He often wonders why all the women in his life (Whom he claims to love more than anything the world.. sometimes I believe him sometimes I don't :P) are so mean to him.. I said maybe it's because he just can't function without being told what not to do, but that's only to humour him, I have a feeling the problem is much deeper than that. I do see a very strong pattern here, and I've sworn to resolve it!

There do exist scientific terms for this: Oedipus Complex (for the Freud fans) and Electra Complex (For the other school of thought) but I’ve always thought Freud to be a crazy man and he took things to a completely different level. My thoughts revolve more around looking for traits one is comfortable with.

I would place my bets on the subconscious feeling of being protected when around someone like your Dad/Mom. If there is one person who could get me out of any soup, it is without doubt my father! Probably when I find the other qualities in this man, I de facto assume ( to be read as most optimistically hope!!) that he would also possess this quality as well. 

This logic sounds simple and understandable enough.. doesn't it? As this is the best that I could come up with. And lets face it I'm no psychologist so my opinion is only personal, so don't go quoting me any where. I don't have any lawyer friends who would bail me out in case this lands me into trouble. (In case their are friends who are lawyers I'm not aware of, could you please raise your hands.. I really need advise on how to get a court marriage done these days, his folks are really worried about it and mine have got no clue! Any chance it could be done online? That would be really convenient J )

And I’m not the only one who seems to think so, anyone I’ve mentioned this to, has at least once, if not for long but a second pondered over this observation of mine:

Women end up marrying their Dads and men invariably end up falling for their Moms! 

So much for running away from your parents in your teens and in-betweens J


Like all other emotions, my understanding of this emotion also comes from animation. What better example of father-daughter love than Ariel and her Awesome Dad King Triton J

2 comments:

  1. Similar thing,How i met your mother had an episode on.

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    1. Oh was there?? I've stopped following it since it lost it's charm in the final season :(

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