It's amazing how time just flies!!There I was an year ago.. all confused with mixed feelings about marriage. Didn't know what to expect. And look at me now, one whole year (and more) as a married woman! Not enough to earn a pro at marriage degree, but enough to bust a few myths I see flying around. I don't know if it's just targeted advertising by FB or that is the general sentiment of the people these days, that being married means the end of life as you know it. If I didn't know any better, I might have even believed these random blog posts (any one can write these days ;) ) But luckily for me (I write this as I expect my husband to be back after a drink with his friends any minute now) marriage by far hasn't been that bad a decision. Of course it took my mother's persistence and boredom from the single life for me to take the leap, but I did it OK? So let's just leave at that and get on to the bits of wisdom that I have to share.
So you've heard the bad things that come with marriage, here are a few good things :
1. Shopping would no longer be treated as a waste of time by your parents, they would actually ask you to take days off from work to help them do it!! (Yeah! No Kidding!)
2. Endless gifts and cash and gifts and cash and more gifts ( Truth be told you'd think you would want more cash, but it's those thoughful gifts that make you smile and those absolutely useless ones which make you roll over of the floor laughing) Long and short of it.. It keeps you entertained
3. You will never need any other plan partner. Imagine this: You could just wake up in the morning feel like doing something, you dont need to plead. Just drag the jail bird with you (easier said than done... But it mostly works)
4. You can add one more guy to your bully list. Now this is by far my favorite! I mean how can it not be? You can ask a guy double your size to clean up the bathroom after himself or he would not get his food. Where in the normal world can you do that? I know where in the normal world would you need to do that, but that's another discussion
5. Till when will you procrastinate growing up? Or growing fat while we are at it..
6. Double the fun in getting anything done, even for the simplest things like buying groceries. Now that is a different thing that when I was living with my parents I didnt even need to bother about these things, but now that I have to do them it's better with someone to do it with
7. Half the pain, even for the most mundane things like buying groceries. I'm sure you've got my point :)
8. There are places to visit and your friends may have other plans (but your husband's got no other life but you!)
9. The obvious <wink wink>
10. As mush as this may sound, marry for the love... as the real magic happens once the wedding guests are gone and you have a home to build.
For the very little obsessive compulsive inside of me I like my lists even numbered. And while these random rantings may not be enough to steer your decision anywhere, but I had very openly told that this blog aims to offer no advise(ever!) So why did you even try?
But trust me when I say this, it is a leap of faith. Also, you just have to experience it for yourself. No amount of advise good or bad would ever prepare you for this, except your mother's, because moms are always (have been and always will be) RIGHT! For everyone else who asks you to wait till you are <put any age here> to get married, slap them across the face. Wait till either of these two things happen to you to get married
1. You found that someone special, the one you can imagine yourself growing old with
2. That someone special finds you :)
Everything else is just hogwash... you know stuff and nonsense..
Good luck and lots of love!!
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